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Many are in great distress as this seemingly simple goal eludes them year after year. We are not helping such people by telling them that they are fine unmarried and that they don’t need a spouse to be happy or fulfilled.
However, what is confusing to many who work with singles is when a proportion of them seem reluctant to make the kinds of change that would help their cause. A key premise being explored by this project is the notion that some singles may be resistant to giving up independence. While this may at times be due to self-protection, we are looking at the possibility that often the issue is one of values. Perhaps some singles struggle to recognise that for a true partnership to be forged, both parties need to give up a significant measure of independence.
They date as ‘singles’ instead of acting like potential couples. At some point, the individuals have to take a risk and cross the Rubicon, surrender a measure of their independence, and accept they are answerable to each other. Individuals in a dating situation have to practice compromise from an early point, something which they often find difficult.
Simply urging a person to display greater flexibility will rarely result in any change. Only an altered attitude towards dating and marriage will bring about a sustained change. This complexity was brought home to me by a singer/songwriter who produced a defiant defence of being single:-
This is my current single status, My declaration of independence, There’s no way I’m trading places, Right now my star’s in the ascendant,
Then he produced a song full of pathos about the failure to find a soul-mate -
Who doesn’t long for someone to hold, Who knows how to love you without being told, Somebody tell me why I’m on my own, If there’s a soul-mate for everyone!
This project seeks to benefit from Judaic values on relationships to inform our research into how best to assist singles seeking greater success in this area. In particular, the Talmudic take on marriage is heavily based on the concept of interdependence, whereas popular perspective associates it more with the notion of love. From a Judaic vantage point both man and woman need each other and should own up to this instead of imagining that they can manage just fine alone.
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